here we are, 20 years old.
young loving kind free growing & awkward The only way I can describe this time between living at home & being in high school and the time where you are transforming into an adult with responsibilities is.....AWKWARD. At this point you've become so wedged between childhood and adulthood it's confusing and any extra guidance is appreciated. Here are some extra tips to get you through the good and the bad of these weird years. 1. You don't owe anyone anything. Know yourself and stick true to what you believe, appreciate and enjoy. You don't want to go out? Don't and the beauty is you don't have to make up an excuse because you don't answer to anyone. Live this life for you. Be kind but dont be such a people pleaser that you are miserable because you are living a life others are molding for you. 2. You'll become close to people just to have them become strangers again. People come and go, they always will. You'll find yourself super close to people that you can't imagine your life without then before you know it 2 years pass and you see them at Starbucks. With absolutely no clue what's going on in their life. That's okay and it doesn't hurt to ask them how they have been. There will always be that handful of people who have been with you through it all and always will be, stay loyal to them! 3. Tip more. Experience life beyond your precious little iPhone. Go out and get to know people. Communitcate. Be kind. 4. Parents. cherish them and love them with all of your heart. I am very fortunate to say that my parents have become my best friends. In high school, we all think "gosh can't you let me live" or "wow I can't wait to leave" at least once when it comes to our parents but now when I am home from school I want nothing more than to be around them, laugh with them and learn more from them. I love you guys and I will always have my Sunday's reserved for breakfast with you mom & dad 💕 5.Siblings = less I hate you and more, when will you be home? I miss you. my siblings and I used to struggle to like each other when we were younger. We were well behaved children when we had to be but boy did my brothers know how to push my buttons. Yelling, screaming, punching, tackling lol you name it. One by one we left the house and experienced our own things. As time went on we found ourselves telling each other everything and offering advice to one another more than we were arguing. We began to realize that not only are our parents our best friends but we've become each other's best friends. My brothers are two of the few people that I trust with my whole heart. I'm constanly asking myself.... 6. #amiachild? You're running in the lawn with the babies of the family or your beloved dogs. Dancing in your room. Have to do chores when asked. Mad because you hate folding laundry. Washing the dishes because your mom said if you do she'd buy you a milkshake. Buying rather unimportant things. Dreaming of crazy vacations. OR 7. #oramianadult? Bills. Creating a savings. Understanding taxes. Budgeting. Limiting the shopping. Working all week. Being your own person. Student loans. Debt. Setting goals 8. Somewhere in between 6 & 7 again awkwardly placed between paying bills and having make your bed in the morning because "it looks sloppy" even though no one sees it throughout the day. 9. Seeking wise words from older people in your life. I look at my parents and think "hell, how did they do it all?" I have endless notes in my phone of outstanding advice I hear throughout my days. I have been blessed with very wise and strong people in my life and they help nurture my growth. 10. Loss/grief/heartbreak A sudden absence of a person who you have spent so much time getting to know, love and creating memories with, will never be an easy experience. If it's a family member or friend, know that they are with you wherever you go. Watching proudly over you and pushing you in the right direction. I've lost a lot of family members so grief and hurt is something I've come to know all to well. To my guardian angels, thanks for watching me and I'll bring the doughnuts to the gates. If it's a breakup, understand that it is all a growing experience. Just because you breakup doesn't mean that someday you won't be together again but also know that a breakup could be a blessing in disguise. Every relationship teaches you a lesson so yes your heart may hurt right now and when it's time you'll be able to reflect on what worked/what didn't. Ending a relationship will shape you in a way that allows to discovering more of yourself and become one step closer to finding your soulmate. Feel and let yourself heal but try to see the positives. At this age, sometimes I just want to be held by my mom but then again no one can make me laugh and calm me like Tom and my friends. 11.Spontaneous road trips go on them. Grab whomever, Buy twizzlers, Red Bull and Doritos. Pick some place random. Get a nice road trip playlist (90s-early 2000s is always a win). Drive. Drive. Drive. You'd be amazed how many memories and laughs come out of these trips. •As awkward as this time of life is, love it all. Understand that bad things do happen but so do great things. Trust me, it alllllllll works out in the end. One day you'll be standing in the kitchen watching your husband and daughter eat pancakes together. They will be giggling around the table in your cozy little home that once was just a house and in that moment you'll realize that you are there because of your past. The things you'd thought you'd never get through, the times you were devasted at the way life is going all poetically come together to make the beautiful life you've dreamed about since you little. Will it be stress free? HAHA no but you'll learn how to handle it in your own ways. Will there be times that you hurt so bad you feel like your heart has been ripped out of your chest? Yup, sadly there will be. Will there be times you are laughing so hard with friends and family that your stomach starts aching? For sure and boy do I look forward to those days. life is a catch 22 and the awkward, stressful, exciting and loving times have only just begun. Grow strong & love life hard babes 💕 xoxo
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